Chelsea Life Coaching

3 Reasons Why You Can’t Make That Dream Career Change

As a life coach, I see many people unhappy in their job. They feel trapped, uninspired and dissatisfied with their work. They feel unable to reach their maximum earning potential or align their passions with their 9-5. Many have been feeling this way for a long time and unfortunately haven’t been able to take any long-lasting and meaningful steps towards making a change.

One of the questions I like to ask clients is:

“What is holding you back from making a change?”

Surprisingly, the answer is not usually because of money or skills. It almost always comes down to their thinking – also known as our mindset. These beliefs prevent you from making those amazing and big changes you want in your life. So it’s important you know what they are.

The top 3 reasons why career changes don’t happen are…

  1. Fear of what others think

The irrational ‘fear of what others will think’ is so deeply ingrained it can be difficult to identify in yourself.

For example, someone I was working with said she didn’t want to leave her job for fear of being seen as a failure. When I asked her who would think she was a failure she couldn’t identify anyone in particular. It was just a general sense of ‘people will think I’m a failure’. 

I’m embarrassed to say that this has been my own experience in the past more than once. I often assumed ‘people’ would think ‘something’ about me, but later realised that I had no evidence for this. Upon reflection, I had to admit that the whole thing was my internal perception, projected onto others.

If you worry you may be suffering from this, ask yourself….

‘What evidence do I have that supports this fear of what others will think?’ 

Usually, the answer is none! Because let’s be honest, most people are too concerned with their own lives to worry about yours.

Now I’m asking you, what evidence do you have that people will think you are a failure if you quit your job or change your career? Has someone said this to you? And if there is someone who has (such as a parent) it may be time to ask yourself, what do I value more… my happiness or pleasing others?

  1. Uncertainty and confusion

A clouded mind is unable to focus and problem-solve. In this day and age, we have so many options that we usually end up feeling overwhelmed, confused and lost. The statement I often hear is:

‘I’m scared to change careers because I don’t know if I’m going to like the new career any better than the one I have’

This can result in analysis paralysis. The only way to get out of uncertainty is to take some time to learn more about yourself. You need to:

  • Identify why you want a career change or job change
  • Identify what makes you happy
  • Identify your talents and skills.

This requires getting help and taking some time for you. The reason why I launched my ‘Find a Career You Love Before 30’ online program, is to help you identify your values, strengths and passions. If you feel confused this program can bring you clarity and give you a clear direction forward. 

  1. Self-doubt

The third most common blockage is self-doubt, which disguises itself as procrastination. Too often, people have a dream, a career they want to pursue or a side hustle they want to get off the ground. But every time they go to take action, there is an excuse:

  • I don’t have enough time
  • I don’t have the right equipment 
  • It’s too hard
  • I’m too tired…. etc.

Excuses can be a mask for self-doubt. If you don’t believe you can do something then you will find reasons why you can’t. Alternatively, if you believe you can do something, you will find a way.

So how do you increase your self-esteem? You gather evidence. Here’s how.

  • Write down 50 things you have ever achieved. Look over this list and reflect upon all the amazing things you have done. We all have accomplishments to be proud of.
  • Gather evidence of other people’s successes. I love reading biographies and learning about the amazing things people have achieved. They provide inspiration and motivation to shake my life up too.

So what is holding you back from making that dream career change? Is it self-doubt? Fear? Uncertainty? You CAN make a change. It won’t be easy and there will be lots of hard work, but it will be worth it in the end. 

If you are feeling dissatisfied in your career check out my online program ‘Find a Career You Love Before 30’  to give you confidence and clear direction to move forward.